Rude online dating
In case it’s not obvious: Demonstrate creativity, intelligence and a great sense of humour • Be totally different to anything she may have received before • Be obviously unique and not a cut-and-paste job • Show that I’ve read her profile and absorbed facts about her • Not be needy!
I have dedicated an entire volume of my bestselling audio series, Finding the One Online to how to write emails just like this.
Ignoring someone – someone who is paying you a huge compliment, in fact – is just flat-out What the hell – was I raised in a barn, she’d ask?
And yet, here I am, convinced beyond just about any doubt that what we’d call rudeness in our face to face dealings is a far kinder way of behaving in the online world.
More to the point, what are the implications for society as more and more of us are socialized according to the rules of online etiquette?
Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
As a man, your takeaway is that the competition is fierce, and thus far, you have not been up to it.
Stop blaming Match or women or your city for your failures and learn to market yourself more effectively.